Well, it’s Friday. I have no idea how it came so fast. My brain is still in la la land from all that is going on this week and next. But I wanted to wrap up with this week with a little food for thought. Some food for thought combined with a Cotter confession.
You see, a few days ago I was asked to write a guest post for a certain company. They sent me a few topics they were hoping to focus on and one of them was HOW TO BE A BETTER SPOUSE. I immediately gravitated towards that topic because I thought it would be fun and easy to write about. Little did I know that God had other plans.
A few days went by and my thought process started to shift. I thought to myself, “ I can’t write about how to be a better spouse. I need to practice on being a BE THERE spouse first.”
I admit. I haven’t been there lately. I’ve been lost in YONKERS! Sure, I’ve cooked meals, done laundry, asked how his ride/run/swim went. But have I really BEEN THERE for my husband? Have I MADE TIME for him? Have I made him my priority instead of my work?
My answer.
Nope.
Guilty.
I’ve gone through the motions of being a BETTER spouse, but that means nothing without BEING THERE, BEING PRESENT for my husband (spouse).
Last night we went on a walk and talked about how to BE THERE for each other. Being PRESENT, AVAILABLE, and SUPPORTIVE.
Here are my top 5 Tips I am learning to PRACTICE myself.
- Be Flexible.
- Take 10 minutes for each other. Coffee date, a hike, a walk, whatever. Don’t take your phone or any other distractions.
- Don’t be selfish with YOUR time, be selfish with your TOGETHER time.
- Don’t strive to be the perfect spouse, be a HAPPY spouse.
- And last but not least—> Cook with love. I promise the food tastes better that way and is FAR MORE APPRECIATED!
One of my husband’s favorite meals is nothing fancy, but I love making it because he loves it. That’s satisfaction in itself. Yes?!
- 5-6 eggs
- 1/2 cup egg whites
- 1/3 cream or almond milk
- diced sharp white cheddar cheese
- 8 slices prosciutto
- coconut or olive oil
- garlic and black pepper
- Red pepper flakes
- sriracha sauce to top if desired.
Directions:
Preheat oven to 400F. Whisk together eggs, milk, and seasoning. Place prosciutto at the bottom of each muffin cup in pan. Then pour batter into oiled muffin pans. Drop one small cup of sharp cheddar in each cup then season with red chili pepper on top. Place in oven for 13-15 minutes and broil the last 1-2 minutes. Let cool then serve as snack or meal. Oh and Definitely drizzle with sriracha sauce on top!
It might not be fancy, but it’s a recipe that’s easy to please, easy to make, and allows a little more time to BE THERE for my husband. This weekend I’ll be Sherpa-ing a race. You better believe I’ll BE THERE… WITH BELLS ON! No OTHER distractions.
What do you think it takes to be a better spouse, friend, etc? Being there (positive and present) is KEY… in my opinion! Yes?
Cheers,
LC
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