The Pro Triathlete’s Wife

by LCCotter on July 16, 2012

This post was a long time coming, but for some reason I have been putting it off. I am not good at putting my complete thoughts into words. I always assume everyone can just read my mind, as they should, right? Just kidding. But in all honestly, it’s hard for me to really describe the depth of my “feelings” so to speak. But here goes.

A while back I was asked to write guest post about what it’s like being a pro triathlete’s wife. Well, I never got around to writing that post because  my answer always seemed to be changing.

You see, over 5 years ago I promised James I would be that support system for him, no matter what.

It’s led us down many CHANGING pathways. But I was ready. It’s no longer my schedule or his schedule, it’s our schedule. We’re a team.

That’s the thing about pursuing a dream, it really takes a TEAM!

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For the past 5 years we have lived paycheck to paycheck, lived in several different places, and sold many things just to get by.

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For the past 5 years we have gotten up at 4:45am each day. James goes to swimming, I prep the meals for the day.

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For the past 5 years I have been by his side at most races. I have done the last minute tug of the wetsuit, I’ve been the “bag and gear” holder, I’ve been the “drop me off at transition” driver.

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For the past 5 years I’ve been the one waiting at the finish line, I’ve been the one chasing him down for bike splits, run splits, etc. I’ve been the one cheering for him and others as they zoom out of the water.

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For the past 5 years I’ve been the passenger on long car rides to destinations races. I’ve been the one who carries the food, makes the meals, finds good hotel rates, and takes care of the travel arrangements.

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For the past 5 years I have seen a man win races, drop out due to injury, and fight just to the finish. I have been there to sit in silence after a let down. I have been there to hug , cheer, and kiss after a break through.

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For the past 5 years I’ve been the one who rescues him after 2 flats on a long ride, or when he’s caught in bad weather. Yes, and I’ve been the one praying for safety each day too. Winking smile

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For the past 5 years I’ve been part of a team. A really good team! James is the head, I am neck (the supporter). We function so much better together.

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For the past 5 years we have been going through change. It’s ironic, because that’s the only thing consistent. Change. We know it’s coming. But maybe that’s the sacrifice we make? A consistently inconsistent lifestyle.

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For the past 5 years I’ve watched my husband portray such strength, humility, respect, and determination. That’s why I love my job as a wife, a pro triathlete’s wife, a sherpa. Because being part of the THIS team is a not only a reward, but an honor.

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Today the hubs went in for his second PRP treatment on his knee. We pray that this second shot will bring 100% healing and allow him get back to training/racing. But if it doesn’t, then God obviously has other plans. And I know I will always be part of that plan and part of this TEAM…. no matter where we go, what we do, etc.

So life, as wife? I’d say it’s special, it’s hard work, it’s worth every single bit!!!!

<3

signing off,

LC (Mama Sherpa)

p.s.

Check out Lindsay’s List tomorrow for an awesome Tuesday Trainer workout. Good stuff!

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Kelly July 17, 2012 at 6:41 pm

Beautiful. I am glad that I have gotten to witness this team in person. Love to you both. :)
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LCCotter July 17, 2012 at 8:03 pm

oh you’ve done more than witness friend. you’ve been there for us, thick and thin. thank you both! <3

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Caroline July 17, 2012 at 8:54 pm

That James Cutter is one lucky fellow…
(I know you feel you are lucky to have also him :) of course)
Clearly you guys were meant to be. Not all couple make a good team..you guys make a GREAT team..it is rare even for couples who do make it and have a long life together. Wishing James all the best with PRP treatment.
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LCCotter July 18, 2012 at 6:08 am

that has to been one of the nicest things anyone has said. I will take those words and hold them dear. I will try to live each day as that TEAM. I feel blessed to be part of it. I know you and your family make one Heck of a TEAM. It’s beautiful Caroline!

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Beth @ Miles and Trials July 18, 2012 at 12:33 pm

That was so well written. You are an amazing support to your husband and I like how you sum it up that you are a team. Can’t wait to hear how the knee is doing. I hope and pray it is better each day.
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LCCotter July 18, 2012 at 1:32 pm

thank you beth! prayer are like gold to us. We cannot thank you enough.

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Lisa July 18, 2012 at 1:23 pm

What a great way to remind yourself of your purpose, and to remind us about keeping perspective on what’s important in life! It’s not silly jobs and big paychecks—but following passions and supporting people we love! You’ve got the ultimate teamwork–sounds awesome to me :-)
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LCCotter July 18, 2012 at 1:31 pm

i know you know the rish involved in following your passions, but so worth it. yes! thanks lisa!

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teabagginit July 18, 2012 at 3:42 pm

you are more than just a neck, my friend, you are the spine – straight and strong and supporting from head to toe. seriously, your views on marriage (on team-work, really) are so inspirational and true. there is good and bad but there is always two. two hearts, two lives, two members of an unstoppable team.
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LCCotter July 18, 2012 at 7:27 pm

oh Tianna, you are wonderful. I like being the spine. It’s long and curvy. hehe. But thank you, our two hearts appreciate YOU!

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Abby July 18, 2012 at 4:22 pm

I’m late to this post, but I love it. If everyone approached their relationship with a team mindset, a lot more success would be had ;)
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LCCotter July 18, 2012 at 7:31 pm

so true abby. Maybe we need more TEAM BUILDING techniques in elementary, yes? hehe. But really, thank YOU! I appreciate your words more than you know!

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Heather @ Better With Veggies July 18, 2012 at 5:13 pm

I love the way you describe your teamwork, it makes me smile and give me goosebumps. You are living out God’s plan and supporting each other in the process – you both inspire me! Know that I am praying for you! :)

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LCCotter July 18, 2012 at 7:34 pm

oh Heather, thank you. You inspire us daily! you are a wonderful prayer warrior, so thank you!!

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healthy ashley July 19, 2012 at 8:30 am

Beautiful!

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LCCotter July 19, 2012 at 12:15 pm

<3 to you friend.

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Scott July 19, 2012 at 8:57 am

Great post, I really enjoyed reading this. It sounds like the two of you have something special. In tough times I remember what I was told as a kid “The cream always rises to the top”.

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LCCotter July 19, 2012 at 12:16 pm

thank you scott! i love that saying. will definitely be using it. Cheers!

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Jess July 19, 2012 at 9:49 am

Oh friend, this brought huge tears to my eyes. You are the most beautiful person I know, on the inside and out — and your husband? He is one lucky, lucky man now isn’t he? To have such a loving, devoted, committed, adoring wife by his side no matter what. And you? You’re lucky as well – to have a husband who adores YOU and appreciates and respects all that you do for him and together, you’ve become this amazing dream team of a couple. NO matter what life throws your way, you two always find a way to smile through the stress and the joy along the way. I admire you both SO SO much. xoxoxo
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LCCotter July 19, 2012 at 12:17 pm

i think that’s what helped, is finding joy in the midst of trials. Because really, joy is all around, right? We just need to open our eyes! Love you so so much!

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Casey @cswFitYoga July 19, 2012 at 11:14 am

You rock, that is all…..
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LCCotter July 19, 2012 at 12:15 pm

and i would say the same right back. You rock MAMA!

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Julia July 19, 2012 at 2:01 pm

Hey you know i just got a PRP injection in my HS insertion. You want to let that inflammation hang around for a bit, 6 weeks, so go easy on the antiinflammatory foods for now. I am sure you were told no NSAIDs. with the right manual work to break up whatever is going on in those injection sites i am sure he will be like new. So far so good on mine. Lots of luck to you both, the TEAM!
XOXO

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LCCotter July 19, 2012 at 2:31 pm

oh yes, meant to say that! no extra supplements for anti inflammatory. Just mean to focus on fat/protein sources for fuel. thanks for clarifying Julia! how are you healing?

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Julia July 19, 2012 at 2:38 pm

Hey girl, so far so good. after gimping thru St Croix I decided to just call it and skip KS and BSLT ( lost some good $$ to WTC but…) and be good for IM Wisconsin. I am a bit slow but i am running and 6 weeks post PRP I can say that it has worked. I had prolo ( saline) and it worked long ago, but all my tennis lunging came back to haunt me as i went to Tri. Be patient, do the rest, do the exercises ( eccentric for me, guessing the same for him) and it will work, the ones i have heard it doesnt get back too fast. Our bodies are amazing, if we let them be!

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LCCotter July 19, 2012 at 3:21 pm

oh thank you for the update! Glad you are taking care of yourself. seems like we all need a little R&R these days. This is james’ second shot, so we are hopeful that it will be good for next season. Hope the same is with you!!

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Coco July 20, 2012 at 5:57 am

Great post :) Its obvious the amount of hard work, love and support the two of you share- and I admire your go with the flow attitude. I really hope James feels better and can continue to pursue the dream :) Sending healing vibes your way!
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LCCotter July 20, 2012 at 12:49 pm

thank you so much! The support we receive brings so much healing. I know you know this! And we are thankful that we can pursue this dream. Cheers friend!

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Leonor @FoodFaithFitness July 20, 2012 at 10:04 am

Wow! Great post! I hope he is on the mend.
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LCCotter July 20, 2012 at 12:50 pm

He’s working on it. Thank you Leonor.. Happy Friday!

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Jamie July 20, 2012 at 2:48 pm

<3…so sweet.

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LCCotter July 20, 2012 at 5:27 pm

<3 you are sweet!

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Kierston July 20, 2012 at 9:51 pm

An absolutely beautiful post! LOVE!
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LCCotter July 20, 2012 at 10:14 pm

<3 to you!

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Jenny July 21, 2012 at 5:33 am

Geez, I think Cam’s lucked out in me! I won’t be letting him see your post or he might trade me in! You’re fricken Wonder Woman! Aroha from NZ.

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Marcia July 21, 2012 at 8:55 am

What a beautiful post about a great team. You are one great “neck”! All the best with the PRP treatment.

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LCCotter July 21, 2012 at 1:40 pm

thank you marcia. I am grateful for a good HEAD to support.
<3

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Kristin @ STUFT Mama July 22, 2012 at 1:59 am

I don’t know why I’m just now reading this. It gave me chills Lindsay. Your faith is ever so inspring and James is one LUCKY guy with you by his side. GOD is amazing and has put Team Cotter together for on heck of a ride. Hugs and prayers for you both!
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LCCotter July 22, 2012 at 6:22 am

and i am one LUCKY gal to have him. And one lucky gal to have such amazing support and friends like YOU!

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Caroline July 23, 2012 at 6:57 am

I love this ! My husband and I talk often about how our marriage only works because we are always on the same team and never playing against each other. For us it especially applies to raising kids..but really applies to any marriage
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LCCotter July 23, 2012 at 12:03 pm

yes, totally! and i hope to do the same when we have kids. Thanks for the advice caroline. <3
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Kaleigh July 23, 2012 at 11:47 am

I love this! My boyfriend is the same and always has my back when I’m doing my tri’s.
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LCCotter July 23, 2012 at 12:04 pm

thats wonderful Kaleigh. I’d say he’s a keeper!
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Heather @ Dietitian on the Run July 23, 2012 at 3:04 pm

You both have a level of dedication that most of us can only imagine – I love reading about your Sherpa adventures and J’s ventures into the life as a Pro. It’s inspiring, and really amazing to see what the other side of things looks like! Keep on, keepin’ on :)
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LCCotter July 23, 2012 at 4:15 pm

oh Heather, you just make my heart fill with JOY! i know you can relate to this with D and i appreciate your ongoing support, encouragement, and HOPE!

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greengirlrunning August 1, 2012 at 11:24 pm

What a wonderful, fulfilling and unique life! Truly inspiring!
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LCCotter August 2, 2012 at 6:01 am

<3

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tawnee prazak August 3, 2012 at 4:02 pm

this is such a well-written post and so full of emotion. probably one of your best posts ever! of course, i’m devastated james is currently injured and everything is a question mark, but i know the two of you will remain a strong team no matter what! best wishes xo

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LCCotter August 3, 2012 at 7:54 pm

oh thank you friend. We cannot thank you enough for your ongoing support. Glad you are doing well and racing well!

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Chels R. February 4, 2013 at 3:36 pm

Wow, I know this is an old post but thanks for sharing it :) So cool to hear your story. Praying for you guys!!

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