Real life is shared here on this blog. And today I have another REAL life GUEST POST! Round 2 of Life after Blogging. Enjoy her wise words!
Hi Cotter Friends – I’m back And SO happy (and honored!) to be here guest blogging for the ever-beautiful Lindsay while she’s off traveling for a few days.
Last time I visited, I talked about life after blogging and some simple truths I’ve taken to heart, recently.
And today? I’m here to talk a little bit more about life after blogging and how I approach or see life today vs. how I saw it through my ‘blogger eyes’.
First off, let’s get one thing out of the way – I’m a total Type A personality. I have a very hard time with pulling back, with not living in go-go-go mode constantly. I’m working on that.
But through my ‘blogger eyes’? I saw that tendency to do more, go more, BE more as something to be proud of. It was so gratifying to write about how much I conquered in my day, or what my new goal was for a race, or whatever. And in some ways, sure – hitting milestones or conquering a new goal is totally something to be proud of and to strive for.
When going, going, going, doing, doing, doing, becomes ALL that you are day in and day out? Where’s the ‘life’ in that? And by ‘life’ I mean where is the living in the moment, being present, versus rushing from milestone to milestone and through to-do lists? To me, that means you’ve sort of lost sight of the ‘living’ part of life. The part where we actually take a moment to step back, exhale and take it all in.
(this picture was taken in Maine at our favorite lake, Mousam Lake as we helped my grandparents close their summer home for the season…this picture captures the essence of this ‘happy place’ for me but also captures the essence of stepping back, of exhaling, just being…)
That’s been the single most eye-opening bit for me in the life after blogging realm. I talked about living a full life in my last guest post for Lindsay. I’d urge you not to misconstrue that ‘full life’ concept as a life jam-packed with all of those things I listed above (the goals, milestones, bucket lists, to-do lists, etc.) but instead to think of a full life as a ‘lived’ life. One where you do take that time to step back, to exhale, to explore, to just be. (sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out…)
And while I may still be a Type A-er by fault, I am striving for reformed Type-A. Where I’m able to say no, I don’t NEED to do xyz activity, I’m perfectly content right here. And no, I don’t HAVE to clear my to-do list today, going for a walk through my favorite local nature reserve is far more important (like the hubs and I recently did on a rare weekday off together)…
The moments we spent together that day solidified for me exactly what living a ‘lived’ life means to me today. Not through ‘blogger eyes’ but through my eyes today. A lived life is a slower life (in my opinion…and this can be figurative too, not necessarily literal) where you learn to literally stop and take a deep breath of the crisp fall air around you, quack at the ducks in the pond as they quack back at you, and walk hand-in-hand daydreaming away with the hubs without a second thought about the to-do list, chores, miles, and errands that await you at home. (and learn to laugh at yourself when you take a wrong turn on said nature walk and have to track back a good two miles to get to your car, ha).
So let’s go ahead and add that to my list of simple truths – strive for a ‘lived’ life, not a ‘rushed’ life. There is a difference. This much I’ve learned.
What are you striving for in life? Let’s savor it, don’t rush it.