Fake it Friday

by lindsay cotter on March 9, 2012

Ahh yes. Friday has come. Although it’s just another day in the Cotter house, it still feels good to say it’s Friday.

I think my brain and body are finally on the Friday wavelength too.

So what is the best way to overcome jet lag? I say “fake it.” Fake like you never left the time zone that you are currently in. This means you get up, eat, sleep, etc. all at your normal hours. It means going to be when you are not tired and waking up when you are still SUPER tired. We’ve been on the “fake” routine the past 3 days and last night it finally worked, slept the WHOLE night. No sleeping pills needed either. Although I was “this close” to taking them. haha.

While we’re on the topic of “faking it,” and no I don’t mean that kind. Winking smile  I mean the attitude kind, a few people have recently asked me how I (we) stay so positive and “happy”. You know what I say?

HA!

I’m a firm believer of FAKING IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. Well, for most things.

If you put yourself in a situation where you must persevere in order to reach your “potential” or reach your “dreams” per se, then the only way you can survive is through positivity. This is just my opinion. It’s what works best for my our brains.

We are striving towards a dream. We are taking risk. It’s bloody hard. It’s disappointing at times. It’s draining. It’s A LOT to handle.

BUT!!!!!!!!!

If we focus on the good that comes from each trial. If we look past the current situation. If we see each setback as a chance to then LEAP forward, then we just might….

FAKE IT TILL WE MAKE IT.

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And if we don’t, then at least we grew stronger trying.

That’s real strength, no faking it there.

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Let’s see, what else do we tend to “fake?”

I think it’s safe to say we “faked” liking our sweet get up car we drove in New Zealand.

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But like I said, some things you just can’t fake.

Some things are better off seen as they are.

You can’t fake racing a half ironman when training 4 months for a FULL Ironman. Yep, that about explains it all.

I think the hubs said it best here.

IMNZ Race Day Photos

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I promise that’s James. It’s the headless cotter shot I took. Whoops!

2nd out of the water, and 3rd onto the bike!

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And the run, where look on his face explains it all.

No fake smile there and that’s TOTALLY OK!

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Oh and there was no faking me hiding out in the car for 20 minutes after the swim portion.

It was FREEZING!

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Guilty as charged.


 

This post is just a little explanation of our thought process. Some might think the same way, while others don’t. I totally get that. You gotta THINK the way that’s BEST for you, right?

So what’s your motto? Are you a Fake it till you Make it person?

 

Cheers,

LC

p.s.

To thank you for such amazing support, i’ll be hosting a giveaway next week. It’s a personal one, and it just might have to do with Healthy Bites.
:)

{ 61 comments… read them below or add one }

Jess March 9, 2012 at 8:53 pm

HUGE believer in faking it till ya make it – especially when it involves chasing those dreams! That’s precisely what I’ll be doing at 5:30pm tonight while teaching my first barre n9ne class. Faking it like a PRO!!!

PS. I secretly hope to win this giveaway next week, ohhh how I’ve missed your healthy bites!! Must make an order!!!

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:22 pm

You’ll be ACEing it tonight! i know it! and i love it!! Keep me posted!

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Kim K March 9, 2012 at 9:01 pm

oh absolutely fake it till you make it – had my second round interview yesterday and if i dont know what they are talking about, i fake it like i do and just nod my head and smile ;) i think it worked out well.

i love you guys – it was so nice to hear JCs voice today! welcome back to the states – now get some sleep!

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:20 pm

Sweeeet!! i hope you get it girl! and i know the hubs was happy to catch up with you too. i love that he calls his “ladies” on the side. haha.

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jobo March 9, 2012 at 9:12 pm

aww! I totally believe in this and it is so hard to do sometimes…to dig deep and fake it till ya make it. But almost always – well, ALWAYS ALWAYS – it’s worth it. (and I LOLed on the ‘not that kind’ comment hehe). I have called the last year or so a fake it till ya make it at work and with every challenge I’ve faced. It truly helps and is always worth it!! PS YAY for a giveaway…and um Healthy Bites!! Reminder! I wanna put in an order when you are up and running!)

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:21 pm

yes!! that is the theme this year too. and i will follow in your footsteps.

p.s.
Healthy bites are back in business next week!

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Heather (Where's the Beach) March 9, 2012 at 9:29 pm

Sometimes I do think you gotta fake it ’til you make it. If you smile enough, it starts to stick right ;-)

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:22 pm

for real! and we all need to smile more anyway, or at least i do. hehe.

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katie @KatieDid March 9, 2012 at 9:45 pm

I couldn’t agree more, I do it all the time. I’m always voicing things in the positive even when my mind doesn’t totally agree. It helps me convince myself and you come off as positive to others which is always a good thing.

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:23 pm

i think its even more important to voice in your head. Its that positive talk that leads to mental health, right?

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Shannon March 9, 2012 at 9:57 pm

I’m trying to work on the fake it til you make it… but I’m awful at it. I wear my heart on my sleeve. And, seriously, you can’t hide red eyes from crying =\

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:23 pm

oh i understand that friend. I wish i could help ease those eyes. Vent here anytime!!

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Lisa March 9, 2012 at 10:06 pm

I’m definitely all about faking it till I make it…. it works! Or, at least it helps…and if it’s still not great, I have a glass of wine (which I’m counting down to right now….60 minutes till happy hour!)

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:24 pm

pouring mine right now!! so cheers to faking it till we make it… or make it to happy hour. haha!

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Heather @ Better With Veggies March 9, 2012 at 10:06 pm

Yes! Sometimes you have to fake it at first and then it becomes real later too. Like when you’re not feeling “up” or sociable and you force yourself to be pleasant for a while, until it’s contagious even to yourself and your day gets a little brighter. :)

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:26 pm

it really does become REAL later. Joy can be found through that same situation too. True joy comes when you practice it enough, right? oh and the social thing, done that before!!

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Alexandra March 9, 2012 at 10:10 pm

Yes yes yes! Sometimes you just gotta fake it, espexially when it comes to giving a crud in chemistry lectures haha ;)
Oh and I totally agree about faking it for jet lag’s sake! Faking it and loading up on caffeine mwahaha!
Enjoy your weekend!

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:19 pm

oh girl, you are right on about that. Best of luck with chemistry! :P

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Kelsey @ The Secret Life of Kelsey March 9, 2012 at 11:06 pm

totally agree! FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT!!!! Sometimes, when I’m in a really bad mood, smiling does actually help lift my spirits! oh, and a good COMEDY ;)

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LCCotter March 9, 2012 at 11:27 pm

oh amen to that sista! my mom used to say the same thing and it WORKS!!

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Laura @ LauraLivesLife March 9, 2012 at 11:29 pm

I think it’s definitely important to both “fake it” but also to recognize and validate when you’re not feeling great! I struggled a lot over the last year to fake positivity, and it just meant that I help a lot of negativity inside instead of letting it out. Being to cry and move on has been SO important – but so is smiling on the way to work in the morning when I don’t feel like it to make the most of my day!

My thoughts are with you, and keep it up – you will make it!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 1:38 am

agreed. It’s a balance of both reality, letting out feelings, then pushing past and focusing on the good! Good stuff Laura.

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Sarena (The Non-Dairy Queen) March 9, 2012 at 11:31 pm

I think faking it till you make it is the perfect way to put most of what I do! I hope it helps me achieve something great, but if not, at least I took the journey!

Keep your chin up my friend! Positive thoughts always make things brighter! xoxo

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 1:40 am

oh i know you know. and just look where you are now. Bliss!! I love how you two have focused on the positive throughout it all!

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natalie March 9, 2012 at 11:37 pm

I totally fake it until I make it. Sometimes I fake myself into a better mood! Funny how that happens!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 1:41 am

i think it works too. It even works on others. Well, most of the time. How are you feeling these days?

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Julie March 10, 2012 at 1:40 am

Girl I know all about the fake it Friday haha none of my pants fit anymore so faking it is my middle name hahahaha xoxo!!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 1:42 am

i bet its all the muscle you’ve been building though. Thats not fake, it’s FOR REALZ! xoxo

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Angela @ Happy Fit Mama March 10, 2012 at 1:43 am

I totally believe in faking it till you make it! I recently have had some issues at work with another coworker. Let’s just say I have been a really good actress for the past few months for the sake of keeping my job. Today was her last day working with me!! Yay!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 11:23 am

and you were the bigger person for smiling through it! that in itself is a reward. Way to go Angela!

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Heidi @BananaBuzzbomb March 10, 2012 at 2:03 am

Considering my blog post from earlier this week, you already know my answer. Happy Friday friend. Enjoy!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 11:22 am

YEP!! maybe you put that idea in my head. hehe. Either way, we agree and it works!!

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Bre March 10, 2012 at 3:38 am

you know I love ya both! and girl, I’m the queen of fake it till I make it. heck, i’m banking on that motto working for me for keeping up in May! hehe
oh yah, this post reminded me of the quote that Kelly (williamson) has on her blog, the stone cutter one? you have to go read it, you will understand once you read it! :)

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 11:19 am

oh i am off th read that! i meet up with kelly this week so i’ll ask her as well. I know you agree on this. thank goodness! and you will MAKE IT!

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Bre March 10, 2012 at 12:03 pm

if you can’t find it on her blog, definitely ask her. I’ve got that quote written out at home, it’s rather brilliant. :) she has a few blogs where she references/writes about it, also good too. :)

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Katie March 10, 2012 at 4:49 am

I’m not good at faking it. Sometimes that is a detriment, othertimes a blessing. I take the good with the bad, though, mostly because I can’t change it. It’s just me.

I love that his head is a glowing orb. And I’d have been in the car right next to you, tea in hand!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 11:28 am

haha, i think we are so alike in so many way Katie. I love your response here and can relate.

Too bad you weren’t with me to hang out during race day. Could have used that tea! ;-)

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Eleanor@eatinglikeahorse March 10, 2012 at 10:36 am

This is so true and it’s been proved too that pretending to be happy actually makes you feel happier… but yeah, I don’t think you can fake ironman training…!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 11:25 am

i heard those stats too! totally believer. Although i do wish it applied to trianing. ha. How are ya Elle!?

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Eleanor@eatinglikeahorse March 10, 2012 at 5:02 pm

All good thank you, loving the (almost) spring! Thank you, hope life is good with you too :-)
I’ve literally just got back from a workshop on Neuro-Linguistic Programming and it was all about this; positive visualisation, unconscious thinking, etc… it was fascinating and all so true!

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LCCotter March 10, 2012 at 5:55 pm

you’ve got to do a blog post on that! i want to hear more.

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J.L. March 10, 2012 at 11:13 pm

I found this on Wiki last week…”Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you’re a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel!” Because I’m a firm believer in that concept. Love that quote by Richard Scott! Hopefully you become un-jetlagged shortly. That song JetLag by somebody and Natasha Beddinglfield is on one of my running playlists.

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LCCotter March 11, 2012 at 2:06 am

wow, wiki got that right. I will save that quote. It’s just so true! thanks friend.

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pure2raw twins March 10, 2012 at 11:39 pm

yes I think we all need to fake it till we make it :)
and love that quote how true it is! we always tell ourselves things even if it may not be 100% true to help give us motivation to keep going! most of the time it works haha
HUGS

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LCCotter March 11, 2012 at 2:07 am

yes, because sometimes the placebo affect really does work. Ya know? Motivation of the mind!

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Kalli March 11, 2012 at 12:12 am

I certainly try tO be! Fake it until you make it is a great motto and I need to keep it in mind. You are always so wise lindsay :) hope you and James are enjoying time with Sadie and adjusting to being back in Austin

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LCCotter March 11, 2012 at 2:08 am

trying is half the battle, ya know? but as long we try, we’re getting somewhere. Ya know?
I am settling, but it’s an odd feeling. Not sure if i like it. Oh well.

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teabagginit March 11, 2012 at 12:34 am

i remind myself that nothing has broken me yet. i have survived everything as evidenced by the fact that i’m still here. i will continue surviving because i come from a family of strong, determined women who have done what was necessary to keep me safe and happy. i’ll survive and i’ll thrive because i owe them that. there’s no faking that. history is stronger than any fear of failing!

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LCCotter March 11, 2012 at 2:06 am

amen amen!! i couldn’t agree more. ANd I believe in you!! you are tough, you are strong, and you will survive!

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Caroline March 11, 2012 at 1:24 am

you know I believe it…I believe it works…I just have a hard time doing it BUT I am getting better at it.

my motto…I often tell my friends mine is “if you are not pretty be funny” I say that when they tell me I am funny…because well I am hilarious…no really.

you may not come to LA without telling me. deal?

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LCCotter March 11, 2012 at 2:03 am

doing it is the hardest part! we can say it, but doing it is TOUGH. But you are tough! and yes, i promise to never leave LA again without notifying you.
xoxo

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Maryea {Happy Healthy Mama} March 11, 2012 at 12:36 pm

YES! Sometimes you just have to fake it. Lately I’ve been drinking decaf coffee trying to fake out my body and not feel as tired! ha ha

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LCCotter March 11, 2012 at 6:14 pm

thats a tough one, but i bet you could make it work. Or maybe half caf?? ;-)

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Lindsay March 11, 2012 at 8:01 pm

I believe in fake it till you make it! I like it because sometimes- what you’re faking becomes reality.

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LCCotter March 12, 2012 at 3:14 am

it so does! i agree linz.

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Julia March 11, 2012 at 11:16 pm

yes! i agree wholeheartedly with this…especially the part where you mentioned getting through because it will at least make you stronger if nothing else! i could honestly relate to so much of this post…i often find that life is a lot about our perception of things. we can either look at things negatively or positively…doesnt mean it was a “positive experience” but at least what we took away from it was positive and can positively shape our future!

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LCCotter March 12, 2012 at 3:14 am

YES, perception is EVERYTHING> and to be honest, i am a firm believer in the placebo affect. You can make it happen if you believe enough, yes?

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Alyse March 12, 2012 at 12:56 am

I couldn’t agree more about faking it til you make it. Whether it’s jetlag, your professional life, public speaking…etc, going in with confidence is half the battle.

Actually, I had never thought of applying this mantra to jetlag, but I love that idea. And your post is so timely for me, as I’m hopping on a very long flight in a few days. So thanks for that! :)

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LCCotter March 12, 2012 at 3:16 am

girl you can do it! start practicing now. You’ll be good to go with that jet lag. Where you off to? Have fun!

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Ashley Knox March 14, 2012 at 2:39 am

I absolutely LOVE reading your blog. And I most ASSUREDLY FAKE IT til I Make it some days! It is what it is, but some days it IS too much so I FAKE it! ;)

Glad you and the hubs made it back to Austin safely!

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Nicole April 4, 2012 at 1:12 pm

I love this post makes me wanna laugh so hard. thanks for posting this one.

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